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Ran into this girl in my class outside of the class and I struck up a convo with her. Got her # and we made plans to go drinking.

At the bar we were with a mutual friend and he sat across from us, my arm laid on the booth behind her head.

She began to talk about other guys at a certain point, which I bit into and agreed "oh yeah, I wouldn't push him outta bed shiiit". She talked about a guy she had a crush on in class, I did the same thing I had said about other guys.

Toward the end of the bar scene she called two of her guy friends to come drink with us, instead of getting jealous I just entertained them and made friends. (I believe these were shit tests as mystery would say)

Whole time all this is going on I'm getting gradually more hands, she's starting to grab the inside of my leg, and we end up getting a ride home from the guys she called.

We get up to my room (me, her, and our friend) and after a while the friend says he has to go home.

Me and her had been cuddling on the couch for a second and when that door shut I knew I had to make a move. I got cold feet and thought "well maybe she doesn't want it" then I remembered she was currently feeling up my body on my couch in a room with just us, of course she fucking wants it.

I tilt her head up, we get to making out.

Got to banging. Sleep. Woke up. Bang again. Dick was so numb I didn't even bust quick!

We're getting lunch in an hour and then going back to day drinking.

Never been laid before, thanks you guys!

Edit del autor

I really appreciate all the support this post got, I had another great experience with her last night where I almost fucked it up. I'll post it in a bit, thanks again to everybody in the community posting their reports and sharing their knowledge

Comentarios destacados

Substantial_Smell_72 (▲ 264)

Haha congrats dude! Don't do what I did and fall for the girl too quickly because if it don't work out it hurts that much more. Keep it casual and keep flirting with other girls and keep them in your social orbit. Once I got too comfortable I lost the thing that made her like me in the first place.

BigBof (▲ 11)

The thing is you don't want to have a long term relationship with girls who lose interest as soon as you open up to them and show your true colors and ditch the 'mysterious, bad boy' shit. It's easy to fall for them because of lack of experience but with this type of women the only thing that really works is casual sex or a short term thing.

Creebjeez (▲ 108)

This sounds like a great night!!! I have an important question for the community — at what point do we talk about technique about the actual sex? Great sex is amazing. Being able to hold it down builds big confidence outside of the bedroom and makes women want to stick around and do the deed again.

mallorywasntwrong (▲ 76)

  • Lots of soft touching on non-sexual body areas.
  • Make out. She likes to make out? Fucking make out. Get that neck and collarbones too, don't be boring.
  • Foreplay. Look up videos to become good at it. Don't even think about 5 seconds of foreplay then quitting.
  • When fingering, clit > penetration. Again, clit > penetration.
  • Don't ignore the boobs, but they're not hackey sacks. Be gentle and center around the nipple.
  • If she's not soaking wet, don't go in.
  • You are NOT a jackhammer. There ain't nothing sexy about hitting that cervix.
  • Foreplay during penetration and you're a sex god.
  • If she tells you she doesn't like one of the above, believe her.

hakeem15 (▲ 4)

"You are not a jackhammer" — are you saying you prefer slow strokes / alternating between slow & fast?

mallorywasntwrong (▲ 12)

Yeah stay slow, keep your strokes even and long. Eventually build up to medium speed, I wouldn't jackhammer until the very last few minutes. I've had many hookups who spend the entire penetration time just jackhammering as fast as they can — not a single one of my girlfriends likes that shit. It doesn't feel good and can actually hurt. The best ones are always the ones that slowly and deliberately make you feel every inch.

[deleted] (▲ 8)

And by listening to her! If she tells you to go "harder" or "faster", then you're getting closer to jackhammering. Look at her eyes, you'll know. If you feel like she's starting to get dry, slow down, go back to slow, deep strokes, or go back to preliminaries. When you use your hips, lean your pelvis just above your D on her upper vulva where the clit is — don't do a rubbing motion, just lean on it, use it like a balance point. If you don't know the full anatomy of the clit, please Google it, it's so much more than the little tip you can touch with your finger.

ItsAXE93 (▲ 11)

Bro anything on performance anxiety? How to get over the mental block (no physical problem, just mental)?

Captain_w00t (Moderator) (▲ 14)

You switch off your brain and go with the flow. That's an experience, not a performance.

[deleted] (▲ 4)

Performance anxiety comes from bad foreplay skills. You wonder: how long am I gonna last? Is my dick big enough? When all she cares about is how you can make her cum 4 times in 30 minutes and never think about how good your dick looks. Learn to finger and eat pussy and you'll never bother about performance anxiety. I HIGHLY recommend reading "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner.

[deleted] (▲ 5)

Daniel Rose: Sex God Method

thePolishHammer007 (▲ 3)

I have one rule and it has never failed me: Ladies first. As in she comes first, you come last. If "ladies first" is your mentality, then the foreplay and all that other shit will come naturally. Also, don't be scared to straight up ask someone what they like/don't like.

Marilla1957 (▲ 3)

Explore and stimulate her entire body including her mind. If you fail to stimulate her mind, nothing you do to her body will get you there. Women have erogenous zones all over their body — some have more, some less, you need to discover those spots.

Don't rush the foreplay, take your time, but you can also kill the mood if you spend too much time in one spot — pay attention to how she reacts. Do your best to make sure she has at least 2 powerful orgasms before you go inside her, then 2 more before you orgasm.

Afterward, do not just roll over or jump out of bed and ignore her. "Afterplay" is just as important as the foreplay — if she feels like she's been used, it doesn't matter how great the sex was.

Firc (▲ 3)

I would argue that if you want good reoccurring sex then grab a FWB or boyfriend/girlfriend. His first time, especially a one night stand, will never be the best sex. Unless you have a reputation as a bad sex partner, this isn't something he should worry about. He will get better with practice and good communication.

letsgetrandy (▲ 3)

It's not even a shit test. She just had friends who stopped by. All of you insecure little fellas just read far too much into everything. You just need to have the right mindset from the start: I am comfortable in any situation, I do not have expectations, I am fine with wherever this night takes me. If you have that mindset, you will befriend those guys as well, and that will only make you more attractive to the girl.

australopitecul (▲ 5)

I don't know exactly the context of their date, but if I were to bring other girls to the table just to make my date jealous, I'd feel horrible doing that. We don't know the actual intentions of that girl from OP's story — if someone does that just to provoke jealousy, that's just shitty behavior, not a harmless "test".

mallorywasntwrong (▲ 6)

Are they shit tests or did that girl just not have a scarcity mindset? Think about it: you're a single girl on a casual hookup date, you're not gonna pretend like you don't have guy friends. A self-confident dude won't give a shit about crushes and guy friends, and an insecure dude would act like an asshole (letting the girl know he's an asshole and allowing her to filter him out).

Joe_Doblow (▲ 27)

To ignore the negative thoughts in his mind — she shit tests him, he doesn't get angry, he realizes she's just testing to see if he's an overthinking weenie. Then she shit tested him again and he didn't get jealous, he acted like he was confident enough not to feel threatened.

And then he also learned not to follow his good-guy gut instinct of thinking she doesn't want to have sex. Watch what they do, not what they say. Before this his low confidence would have had him thinking she wouldn't have wanted sex, but he learned to give it a shot.

fuckdus (OP) (▲ 3)

Shit test is a term coined by Mystery, basically just a girl doing something to see how you react. In this case the girl was trying to see if I was jealous easily, and by not buying into it I "passed the test". If I were to act out and get desperate it wouldn't have gone well.