Instead Of Learning What To Say To Women, Learn How To Hold Good Eye Contact. Here's Why...
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Escalation & Calibration
"What do I say to get women to like me?"
"What one word can I say to get women in bed?"
"How do I sound cool to women so they can like me?"
In the beginning of our seduction journey, we wanted to know what to say to get women to like us, however, if you focus on learning how to hold good eye contact, you will get much better results.
Women speak with their eyes. They can tell if a man is confident, needy, or very shy by the look in his eyes. When you can hold good eye contact, you can say a lot with a closed mouth.
"I don't want to come off as a creep"
When you learn how to hold good eye contact, you will learn the language women know using their eyes. If a woman is not interested, you will know by her eye contact. If a woman is interested, you will know by her eye contact.
So instead of trying to say something cool, give a simple good morning with good eye contact. Instead of holding long conversations trying to impress her with your words, give good eye contact and listen to her. Don't fake listening to her, let her talk to you and pay attention. You gain more of an advantage by listening than talking:
- You can catch if she's being honest or not
- She will tell you what she likes/dislikes
- She will feel more connected to you because women love being heard
I had a female co-worker at my previous job. I couldn't really talk to her the way I wanted to because she had a boyfriend who worked at the job, but we always gave good eye contact to one another. I could tell she was interested, she could tell I was interested. We barely spoke, but we spoke with the eyes. When we actually did speak to one another, it was very brief. She would do things to get my attention (talk loud, talk to people in my general area to get my attention, etc.) and I would look around to see what section she was working in.
"That sounds like a whole lot of nothing"
The point of me sharing that was not saying that I got the girl, but I knew she was interested due to eye contact. I never impressed her with my words. Being that I held good eye contact, she became more interested. I can transfer that to anywhere and everywhere. If I'm at a restaurant, I can tell if the waitress likes me or trying to get a good tip. A woman can convey interest from across the room, making a cold approach a warm approach even though I never met her before.
"I'm intimidated by looking women in the eye. Especially in this day and age"
You're not trying to get her to like you with eye contact, you're conveying a message. Looking her in the eye is an invitation, her holding the eye contact is an acceptance to the invitation.
Practice looking women in the eye for 5 secs. Don't worry if she looks away or not interested. The goal is to hold longer eye contact. Work your way up to 10 seconds. That may sound stalkerish, but being comfortable holding eye contact that long will increase attraction for women who are interested in you.
Once you've established mutual interest via eye contact, give her a normal greeting and speak to her like a normal human being. Even though you're having a normal conversation, continue to look her in the eye when you talk to her. You may notice that you will have more chemistry with women because you're no longer intimidated talking to them or looking them in the eye.
"How do I look her in the eye? You said women can tell if you're needy or shy through eye contact"
Look women in the eye like you're interested, but you don't need her. Looking away if she's looking at you conveys that you're really shy or intimidated by women.
There's a term I use called "needy eyes". This is when you are looking into a woman's eyes and you have a look of "You're so beautiful. Please like me". This type of eye contact is not sexy to women and it gets you rejected.
This is why a lot of men don't get the results they want with women because they sometimes come off as shy and timid or give women "needy eyes".
Practice your eye contact with every attractive woman you see, every where you go. Work your way up to 10 seconds of good eye contact. After a while, the first place you go when meet a woman is the eyes. You're no longer avoiding eye contact, but you are welcoming good eye contact.
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GrandMasterB19
OP, this is solid advice. Don't listen to all the cynics roasting you in the comments. This generation of men is so brainwashed by feminism, hollywood, and god knows what else, they don't even have the social awareness to realize that if a woman doesn't like you she will avoid making eye contact with you, close herself off, and reject you through her body language. If a woman looks uncomfortable, stop looking at her. If she looks back at you nervously, warmly, playfully, or lustfully, those are all good signs. Case closed.
magnetradio (OP)
Couldn't have said it better myself. I think feminism really did a number on men. They think that looking at a woman with good eye contact is rape or harassment.
GrandMasterB19
Absolutely. When I was younger I used to hang out with and even date many feminist-type women, and I had a tomboy for a mother. So needless to say, I internalized this stuff from a young age. The irony is that even the self-proclaimed feminists women aren't actually attracted to overly-cautious socially-avoidiant men that hide their masculinity, despite claiming they want more feminized men... I think what might be happening with some of these guys is that they look lustfully at women that don't reciprocate attraction, so therefore in their brains looking at ANY woman = creepy. Rather, it's being aware of the social nuances. Eye gazing can be creepy, OR it can be the warmest greeting on the planet.
Ultimately you have to accept that humans are animals and these are our mating rituals. It's NATURAL for a man to show women HIS choosing signals, just like it's totally natural for a woman to show a man her choosing signals. I think people in general need to get more comfortable with displaying intimacy and facing rejection. With society's attempt to power wash the world into a PC liberal arts college campus, people are more uncomfortable with sexual attraction and sexual polarity than ever before. Conversely, sexual attraction and sexual polarity are the foundational pathways to romance between men and women.
And here's an extra secret for all the "creepy" guys...women would rather reject you nonverbally through their body language than verbally reject you to your face. That's why cold approach/pick-up often makes you the creepy-loser guy...you're approaching women that have no interest in you and you don't even have the social awareness to recognize it.