30 Quick Tips For Attracting Women

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Fundamentals

If you're going to use Tinder, use the app Photofeeler to get actual women to rate your pictures so you can find out which ones are attractive to women.
If you live in a big city, join your local game global group to find wingmen that you can go out with to meet women.
Make your intentions clear sooner rather than later. You can do this by simply saying, "You're actually kind of cute." at some point. This will prevent you from getting stuck in the friend zone and also shows a lot of confidence which is in itself, attractive.
To get good pictures for dating apps, go meet a friend for a photoshoot and take at least 100 pictures of each other. Most of them will suck, but a few will be really good. Most high-end phones from the last few years can take good enough pictures.
Don't leave meeting women up to chance. Set a goal for going out x times per week and stick to it. Treat this like you would any other skill you want to develop - fitness, learning an instrument, etc. If you don't make a commitment to yourself, you probably won't take any action whatsoever.
Remember that fortune favors the bold, every girl you don't ask out is rejecting you by default. Every girl you do ask out might say yes.
Getting into better shape will be good for your self-image, and it definitely won't hurt your attractiveness to women. Just make sure you don't use "getting ripped" as an excuse to procrastinate on trying to meet women until you meet some mythical goal in the distant future.
If you feel proud of the way you're living your life, women will feel it too. Having hobbies and following your passions in life will change the way you carry yourself and make you significantly more attractive. Read good books, be physically active, learn new skills, these won't only improve your life in general, but they'll improve your dating prospects as well.
Join local groups on the website meetup.com as a way to socialize and meet new people. Some cities will have singles groups you can use as a way to practice flirting.
Pay attention to the way you talk to girls. You may notice that you speak in a higher pitch, and you talk faster. This generally makes you come across as less confident. If this is the case, make a point to add pauses, speak slower, and lower your voice. You can use the app Vocular to practice this consciously.
Read the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. It's a dark book, and it has a lot of manipulation in it, but it also has many deep insights into the psychology behind what makes people fall in love. After reading the book, you will have a much stronger understanding of how to seduce someone.
If you have approach anxiety, start by simply saying hello to girls as you walk by them. That will be easier than a committed approach. Then, once you're used to greeting girls as they walk by, take the next step by approaching a girl and asking her if she knows anywhere good to get food nearby. Once you've done that a few times, you'll eventually reach a point where you're comfortable enough talking to strangers that you'll be able to approach a girl with a direct line like, "I thought you looked interesting, and I had to meet you."
Don't think you have to touch a girl or tease a girl to get a date with her. The only thing you need to do is invite her to hang out with you again; focus on doing that consistently before you worry about anything else.
If you approach multiple women in a short span, you will build something called social momentum. Social momentum is a state of increased confidence in which you stop overthinking and fully trust your instincts. Getting into this state can completely change your perception of yourself.

The next tips are key signs that a girl is attracted to you:

She laughs even when you don't say something very funny.
She fills in conversational gaps by asking you questions.
She talks quickly and with a higher pitch than usual.
She touches her hair repeatedly.
She touches you - this one is less common than the others, but it's a very good sign.
Being aware of the signs a girl will give you that she's attracted is helpful, but every girl is different, and the only way to know for sure if someone likes you is to ask her on a date, invite her back to your place, or go for the kiss.
You don't need to have a different kind of conversation with a girl to attract her. You can talk just like you would with your friends. The only difference is that you show your intent at some point and take the lead.
Picking up women should be fun. If you're taking yourself too seriously, women won't find your energy attractive. Make fun of yourself. Make fun of the girls you talk to. Smile, laugh, be playful.
Game is a skill, but luck plays a significant role, too. If you approach ten girls, there's a high chance that one of them will happen to find you charming, or maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend and is looking for a fling. The more charismatic you are, the higher the percentages will be, but luck will always play a key role, and it's essential to play the numbers game in your favor.
If a girl gives you choosing signals, make sure to approach her. But if, in general, you wait for women to give you clear signs of interest before approaching, you'll probably turn that into an excuse to avoid approaching anyone.
Women enjoy sex more than men. Don't think of sex as something you're trying to get; think of it as a type of value you're offering. This mindset will increase your confidence.
If you want to take online dating seriously, it's worth paying a professional photographer for a photo shoot. High-quality photos can make the difference between women rating you as a 4 and a 9.5. I'm not exaggerating; the difference between the best and worst ratings my pictures get on Photofeeler is more than 5 points.
If you want to become wittier or more charismatic, one of the best sources available is standup comedy specials. Watching them will help you understand humor on a deep level.
If you're struggling to get any dates, honestly ask yourself if anyone else would be getting dates taking the actions you're taking? Are you really trying, or are you thinking too much and not putting yourself out there enough?
Give yourself credit for small wins. A lot of guys think everything other than getting laid is a failure. This will lead you to lose motivation. Instead, be proud of yourself for approaching a girl, for making a woman laugh, for getting a number, every small step in the right direction is a win - it's critical to remember that.
Don't take the decision to get into a relationship lightly. Many men learn about pickup and get into relationships with women that they don't have a great connection with, and they end up getting married and having children with the wrong person. Have very high standards for yourself when it comes to making that commitment because you will spend much of your free time with your significant other.

Comentarios destacados

YeowMeow (▲ 61)

You never ask for that. You will sense the vibe and body language and do it in the right moment.

kkstoimenov (▲ 21)

I've always said "I want to kiss you" or something since I was a teen. The only time I got a no, ironically, was while I was having sex with someone.

im_a_teapot_dude (▲ 17)

To clarify, you ask if the body language is sufficiently ambiguous. Not cool to be kissing women who aren't consenting. That said, if you follow the "get close, triangle gaze, wait" advice, you'll usually get a clear answer in body language (moves away, or parts lips and closes eyes).

PlusTenStrength (▲ 17)

100% do not ask. I asked once and she said "you should've just gone for it" lol learned my lesson.

Contrude (▲ 5)

You'll get the feeling, via IOIs and general vibe, and once you get that feeling, you probably could have kissed her 10 minutes ago. So always go for it if you think there is even a chance. If she rejects it then pretend it didn't happen and go back to the point you were at before. Always work your way up to a kiss — physical contact, make sure she is returning it, slowly moving closer to her. Obviously don't go for it in a public place where her friends can see her. Make her comfortable first.

[deleted] (▲ 4)

Asking definitely ruins it. So my advice would be to take your hand and touch her cheeks in a very slow and erotic way (or run your fingers through her hair), and then go for the kiss. Basically "touching her face is like asking permission to kiss non-verbally" — if she isn't interested, she will lean back.

stalin-the-stripper (▲ 2)

Hi! Coming from a girl, its a lot nicer and sweeter when a guy asks, just doing it is fine too (if you've already kissed that person before) but for a first time, it's preferred by a lot of girls that you kinda just ask 'hey can I kiss you?'

JakeMullerRE (▲ 5)

Never ask a girl if you can kiss her. Nothing kills attraction faster than this. Most women communicate indirectly, via emotions and by giving you clues (for example, if you are on a first date and it goes well and she says something like "this is the right time", you go in for the kiss). But at the same time, don't expect her to say that and don't wait for it.

[deleted] (▲ 1)

Unless it's obvious, ask. You'd rather miss out on something special than end up in jail for sexual assault.

[deleted] (▲ 1)

Catch her gaze and stare at her lips. If she wants the kiss she won't look away, might even smile. Then just go for it.

CorneliusHardcastle (▲ 55)

NGL a lot of this creeps me out and seems really devious to a weird level. However — #3, "You're actually kind of cute", is great advice. Some people think the friendzone is BS, but it's also very real: girls approach a guy they're actually attracted to, guy is nice back and talks respectfully like an equal friend, and the attraction from the girl evaporates in correlation with a limp friendship developing.

I've found it's best to just pull the bandaid off first up. If you're at a bar and see a girl, bite your lip and say "damn, you're hot, what's your name? wow". This works remarkably well.

When I made the change from being the friendly respectful guy to the lusty horndog it literally made me realise I'm actually somewhat attractive because girls nearly always responded positively. My female-friends have told me straight that they initiated the friendship due to physical attraction but then it changed when I was a non-sexual friend type of guy. Be honest and upfront from the get go.

stc207 (mujer) (▲ 13)

I think that 'you're kind of cute' is waaaay too ambiguous and the 'kind of' gives off a super strange vibe that would instantly turn me off. However approaching and opening with 'damn, you're hot' is also just a bit too blunt, it sounds too pickup-artist-y. But the second part, 'what's your name, wow' works a lot better because it's not as immature or objectifying while still showing interest.

Radiant-Reality888 (mujer) (▲ 11)

I agree with this 100%. I had a guy who I exchanged words with at work for a bit, but after seeing my ass came up to me saying "hey you're actually 'kind of' cute!" Total turn off!! As a woman in her late 20s, I'm going to need a better approach than that. Asking for my name and saying "wow, I find you very cute" would have been better imo.

NiceMarmotte (mujer) (▲ 3)

I real love a "damn girl you look fine!" from a man that I already know, like we have been friends or gone out before, it feels really nice. However, it would probably be a bit much from a stranger. I feel like "you look really nice tonight" is a better middle ground.

[deleted] (mujer) (▲ 3)

Personally, when a man is upfront with me about his interest in me, it isn't creepy — unless he's particularly vulgar about it. But even then, it's less creepy than if a man tried to friend me first. A man trying to friend me is literally trying to gain my trust with a particular interest in mind. That's disturbing in my book. It's also just generally pretty hot to know a guy likes you enough to be willing to be vulnerable for a sec, knowing he risks rejection.

Douglex (▲ 22)

Number 31. You can't make a woman sexually attracted to you. Women decide this before you even open your mouth. These tips are great for making women like you as a person, but liking your personality is a prerequisite, not the driver of attraction. Once you accept that your words have very little influence on how a woman feels about you sexually, you'll lose your fear of approaching. There was a point in time where "tactics" didn't exist and men still got laid and married.

Aghayden (OP) (▲ 3)

You haven't given any evidence to support your number 31. There's also the other side of that coin: it's not hard to make a girl lose attraction for you. There have also been a number of scientific studies that counter your argument — one about eye contact where strangers held eye contact for four minutes and afterwards experienced feelings of deep love for each other. Another is the misattribution of arousal study with the rickety bridge: men who crossed a dangerous bridge were far more likely to ask out the female lab assistant they met afterwards than men who crossed a stable bridge — their arousal from danger got misattributed to her.

Douglex (▲ 5)

There are also a number of scientific studies that support my argument: studies finding that women value physical attractiveness over personality, and over status. Women themselves are always saying that physical attraction is important. I'm not saying you can't mess up if a woman finds you attractive — all I'm saying is that physical attraction is a requirement.

Aghayden (OP) (▲ 5)

Those studies are just what people say they like on a survey. How well that matches real-life behavior is questionable at best. And even if women do care about physical attractiveness to an extent, those studies don't show how much of it is looks versus personality versus other factors. People overestimate what psychology is capable of proving, especially from correlational research.

Educational-Tie5732 (▲ 5)

Note, always buckle up: when she's neutral about you or sending mixed signals it's better to move on, it's always a NO, never chase, you can't negotiate attraction. Or if she's neutral about you and you feel you have a chance, take the risk and buckle up.

BurnablesOnMondays (▲ 8)

"If you're going to use Tinder, use the app Photofeeler" — is Photofeeler secure? As in your pictures won't get leaked out?

"If you live in a big city, join your local game global group" — careful with this one. I joined the Tokyo game global group, and no one in the group actually lives in Japan at all, and the only active poster is some PUA influencer and his shill pal, both from the UK, who constantly advertises his shit.

Aghayden (OP) (▲ 1)

It might be cool to have a reddit seduction sponsored wingman finder. For now, game global is the only decent option I know of although some cities are inactive.

[deleted] (▲ 9)

I think that guys who look up seduction skills end up being really weird, and when they finally hook up with a girl they attribute it to the seduction working when in reality the girl was just thirsty AF (I've been that girl).

But the one tip here that I do like is being direct. If you're reading this, you're thirsty, your goal is to get laid. It's really counterproductive to act as if you're trying to get into a long term relationship with someone.

If you see a girl in regular jeans and a sweater at the college Starbucks, take it easy and talk to her about the book she's reading. But when I'm in a bar, wearing stupid high heels and a tight dress that's so short that you can basically see my panties, I'm not looking for someone to join my book club.