How To Seduce Women (By Channeling Sexual Energy)

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Fundamentals

Sexual tension is the pleasurable feeling that an interaction might be heading towards sex.

Because sexual tension is pleasurable, it is a form of value: it's a positive experience that women not only want, but can easily become addicted to.

Sadly, the majority of men believe the opposite: they think that sexual tension is an uncomfortable experience that creeps women out. So, these men avoid making their interactions with women sexual in any way.

On the surface, this makes sense. By making your interactions with women platonic, you avoid putting girls into an awkward situation where they have to reject you.

To be clear, being overly sexual can make a woman uncomfortable if you do it in a way she can't relate to. For instance, talking about sex with a girl you just met is usually inappropriate.

Fortunately, you don't need to tell a woman you want to fuck her to be sexual, you can show your intentions more subtly – with your eye contact and the energy you project.

Despite the pervasive social narrative that male sexuality is creepy – that men "only want one thing" – in reality, the feeling of being desired by a man is a pleasurable experience for a girl. This is doubly true in a world where men are taught to be ashamed of their lustful nature.

Most men are afraid of genuinely expressing sexual interest in a woman, therefore, the few that actually do create a rare and powerful experience.

That said, creating sexual tension is like a dance, you must take the lead, but you also must be aware of what the girl is experiencing. If you're holding strong eye contact with a girl and she isn't reciprocating, that's a sign that you should respond by toning down your eye contact as well.

Generally, if a woman becomes defensive when you are projecting sexual energy, that indicates she's unavailable to you. She may have a boyfriend, she may be in a bad mood, or perhaps you're just not her type. This is actually a good thing: it's better to know that a girl isn't interested sooner rather than later.

By building sexual tension in subtle ways (through your nonverbal communication), any woman who is at all open to the possibility of hooking up with you will respond positively.

With this strategy, you're not blatantly hitting on women, you're simply projecting sexual energy. If a girl isn't open to having that type of interaction with you, she will make it clear by not reciprocating – and then you can take a step back as well (to avoid making her uncomfortable).

The idea that male sexuality is creepy is a half-truth. When a man is pushy and ignores a woman's efforts to reject him, that is uncomfortable for her. However, sexual energy is actually a good feeling – it is a type of emotional value you can offer women. And if you learn to project that energy in your interactions with women, your dating life will be completely transformed.

How To Project Sexual Energy

When you're talking to a cute girl, you shouldn't just think she's attractive, you should feel attracted to her on a physiological level.

Desire is contagious, if you feel it, the girl will feel it. And that underlying sexual feeling is the spark that makes seduction possible.

Without that feeling of desire, there is no reason for a girl to go on a date with you or to go home with you. She might have logically enjoyed your company, but unless she actually felt sexual tension, it's unlikely she will end up sleeping with you.

This sounds obvious, yet few men effectively communicate their sexual desire to women.

Ask yourself this: when you're attracted to a woman, do you feel desire for her on a primal level? Are you truly turned on by her feminine energy and beauty? When you're interacting with a hot girl, what do you feel?

Most men rarely experience raw lust for a woman, they only think they want her on a cognitive level. The desire is logical, there is no real emotion behind it.

The difference between a guy who gets repeatedly friend-zoned and a guy who can effortlessly turn women on is his own ability to experience desire.

If you rarely feel turned on when you're interacting with a woman you're attracted to, you're missing the point of seduction.

This begs the question: if you're not experiencing real desire for women, how do you change that?

You might be thinking that you should tell girls you find them attractive or that you should talk about sexual topics. Neither of those things are necessary, and in many cases, they can backfire (being so overt can make women feel uncomfortable).

There's a better way. A way to project sexual energy without being creepy.

Instead of talking about sex on a verbal level, learn to cultivate the ability to experience sexual desire for women.

In modern society, we learn to associate our sex drive with two things: porn and masturbation. We channel our sexual desire into pixels instead of into our real lives. Through years of conditioning, we forget how to see real women as sexual beings.

We know on a logical level that we want to have sex with beautiful women, but we don't feel it on an emotional level when we see a hot girl walk by.

The following are two strategies you can use to undo the social conditioning that has taught you to be uncomfortable with your own sexual nature.

Eliminate Porn

Porn is extremely stimulating – it floods us with explicit images and sounds. An attractive woman in a tight dress isn't exciting when you're used to seeing fifteen different girls get naked in a 5-minute compilation video.

If you cut out porn, you'll start to appreciate the natural beauty and sexuality of women in your day-to-day life. Because you no longer have access to this unrealistic fantasy world, reality will become more viscerally appealing.

Additionally, I recommend you make a point to masturbate as little as possible. The less you masturbate, the more sexual energy you will have in your day-to-day life.

And if you do masturbate, use your imagination. If you can't masturbate with your imagination, you're not really that turned on and you're just doing it as a rote habit.

The less you masturbate and watch porn, the more raw sexual energy you'll have in your day-to-day life. Thus, when you're interacting with a hot girl, you won't be going through the motions, you will truly want to make something happen with her.

Focus On The Sexual

When you're out approaching women, focus on the sexual side of the environment rather than the logical side of the environment.

When you see a cute girl walk by, there's a difference between thinking, "She's hot, I should talk to her," and actually appreciating how sexy she is on an emotional level.

Male sexuality gets shamed in modern culture. Partly, this is necessary for society to function – if men were to fully embrace their sexual nature, nothing would get done.

However, it has gotten to a point that most of us are completely cut off from our sexuality. We learn that checking out women is creepy and that wanting sex is perverted. We learn to associate getting a boner with shame rather than excitement.

All this coalesces into a state of mind where we are psychologically conditioned to avoid feeling anything sexual in the real world.

You can train yourself to break this conditioning: with your conscious intention, you can regain control of your own sexual desire.

This isn't about being a perv or being creepy, don't blatantly stare at women's breasts. But when you see a cute girl walk by, let yourself appreciate her femininity, her beauty, her attractiveness.

It's in your DNA to do this, you just have to put conscious effort into reclaiming this ability you were born with.

If you find this difficult, you can take it a step further: actually visualize sexual imagery when you're out approaching women. Imagine yourself ripping a girl's clothes off, imagine her naked, imagine what it would be like to throw her on a bed and fuck her brains out.

This will take some practice, but the results are so life-altering that the effort is worth it.

Once you make the shift from attempting to logically attract women, to emotionally seducing them, your life will never be the same. Your interactions with women will be far more powerful, impactful, and enjoyable – not only for you, but for the girls as well.

Don't take this to mean that you need to be verbally blunt and sexual. In fact, I do the opposite, I say things that make women think I might not be sexually attracted to them.

But on an emotional level, there is a clear sexual 'vibe', it's in my eye contact, my vocal tonality, and my overall demeanor.

If on a verbal level, you seem somewhat uninterested in a girl, but there is a clear sexual heat in your nonverbal communication, that will create sexual tension. She can feel that you want her, but because your words imply the opposite, she'll wonder what's going to happen: "I'm attracted to this guy, but I can't tell whether he really likes me or if he sees me as a friend."

Do it well, and the sexual tension will build up to a point that sex becomes a foregone conclusion.

Unfortunately, most men learn that dating is about making a girl logically think you're a good option for her first, so that she then experiences an emotional desire for you.

The truth is the opposite: seduction is a process that starts with an emotion and only gets explained with logic afterwards.

In dating, your primary focus should be on the emotions you're making women experience, and the easiest place to start is with yourself. Any feeling you experience will spread to the people around you, and sexual desire is no exception.

Comentarios destacados

c2kink (▲ 115)

"Any feeling you experience will spread to the people around you, and sexual desire is no exception." This is so true. I've totally experienced it this past year. Once I started to see myself as sexy and actually believing it, it was like I was putting out a whole new vibe and men and women reacted to it. That sexual energy that I feel definitely attracts others with the same energy. It's weird, bizarre and awesome at the same time.

thebodyclock (▲ 14)

Absolutely. In fact, when I feel sexually attracted to a girl I let it overwhelm my senses and I spend time in that place. Both girls I've picked up recently have said they felt it. The key is holding your nerve and your discipline while you feel it. She will feel it too, but your words and calmness show you have patience. That is what builds attraction. It's magnetism.

[deleted] (▲ 4)

Which is Confidence. Convincing yourself, getting over your own limiting beliefs.

MO_drps_knwldg (▲ 53)

Great post. Agree 100% on removing porn entirely and limiting masturbation to once every seven days. I no longer drink, I quit smoking in my 20's — porn was by far the most difficult of those to quit.

Micro expressions exhibited in the eyes and through relaxed body language are crucial in properly conveying sexual energy. In my experience it was more difficult to look people in the eyes effectively when I used porn heavily.

Troll-or-D (▲ 8)

In my opinion, it's bad practice to stop watching porn. Porn helped me extremely with cumming too soon. I can control it perfectly now, I tried porn absence as well and my sexual endurance vaporized, completely destroyed. Only lasted like 2 minutes. Returned to watching porn (additional to real sex) and able to hold it up as long as I want again.

ld20r (▲ 28)

I disagree on the masturbation point. Guys absolutely do get turned on sometimes and don't just jerk off for shits and giggles. It's a natural emotional response that biologically calls for occasional release and pleasure. When it starts to become an issue is when that release becomes a constant reliance on your self worth and your fantasies start to dwarf reality.

So if nature is telling you to do it, go for it and have fun. But don't let it define you. You do this by talking and socializing with more people, exercising regularly, maintaining a steady diet and keeping yourself active and busy in life.

MO_drps_knwldg (▲ 19)

There needs to be balance. If you're so horny that you're having trouble concentrating on your work or can't fall asleep, then a release is needed every now and then. What a lot of men default to is masturbating whenever they get slightly horny and uncomfortable, or if they feel lonely or bored.

I still advocate for once a week if you're not having sex. From personal experience, I am more assertive and uninhibited in bed when I don't masturbate frequently. I think the most crucial thing is to remove porn completely from your life.

[deleted] (mujer) (▲ 1)

That would be difficult. For some circumstances like mine, literally no men are where I live. Im all I have. Without toys and visual help, my needs would be boring.

MO_drps_knwldg (▲ 4)

I have to disagree. We're conditioned to believe that we 'need' porn or outside visual stimulation to satisfy ourselves sexually. It's a commercialized, monetized, and false representation of human sexuality. From a masculine perspective, porn is massively de-motivating if you want to be attractive to the opposite sex.

[deleted] (mujer) (▲ 3)

Im female. Women normally dont say "I watch Porn" lol. Here's interesting aspects: 1) women know the falsification of porn and the industry that degrades females, so when we watch it we aren't so convinced on the fake stuff. 2) we are visual and physical, so we like seeing and feeling just as much as anyone else does. 3) I stick to soft porn — I want to be considered as I am, a woman to be treated genuinely. It keeps the heart soft when alone and keeps romance alive or available. But once I have the guy, sex changes, seduction changes and the use of porn changes.

MO_drps_knwldg (▲ 4)

Great insight, very interested to hear a woman's point of view on the subject.

AsuraDeo (▲ 12)

Sadly, it doesn't work like that. Abstaining from masturbation does more to make you motivated in general than masturbation once a week or everyday. It keeps you working towards what you want. Give it a go, it actually helps. I accomplished a lot by not masturbating. Got into Brazilian Jiu jitsu, gymed and I am running marathons too.

ZedLovemonk (▲ 1)

The anti-masturbate thing can be safely taken out. That's part of OP's path and not necessarily part of it for anyone else. Trust yourself to judge. If you're not having fun or improving your stamina, you may want to do it less but that's a time management thing.

To newbies, I stress learning how to have a normal conversation and trusting themselves to be interesting enough if they develop themselves. To do otherwise is to chase something far when something close will be at least as effective.

SylAbys (▲ 16)

How bout instead of channeling energy for sex, why not spend that energy on just trying to enjoy yourself and the company. Once that's in full swing, sex will come on its own and it will actually be better cuz there is SOME substance there.

Aghayden (OP) (▲ 7)

This is only true if you're someone who is already comfortable with your sexual energy around women, a large percentage of guys aren't like that. A lot of men are so ashamed of their sexual energy that they block it out completely and the more they spend time with a woman the more they get themselves in the friendzone.

SylAbys (▲ 2)

If u got friendzoned then you put yourself there. While I stated before about just enjoying time with each other, I left out that you can also casually throw flirtatious remarks and compliments to express your interest in her. On a date, especially the 1st, you shouldn't be expecting sex anyway. It happens but not as often as people think.

Shadow__Account (▲ 3)

Watched the video and that part of feeling a wall between me and the girl being my ego protecting me from showing intent really resonated with me. I often find myself super anxious and unable to show intent until the girls show intent, and only then can I start to show intent. Even though this works for me and gets me great results, I still feel the powerlessness in this and I want to reclaim my power and determine my own destiny.

NickyD_ (▲ 12)

Very weird but once I started finding myself sleeping with girls I just lost interest in porn. I might do like 2 weeks and not even think about it until it pops up randomly in my head. It allows me to enjoy the times I get with girls more and makes them more attracted!