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This Is How You Stop Creeping Women Out Or Stop Feeling Creepy Around Women

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I've noticed an increase in posts here from guys wondering if they're being creepy or not. A "creep" is about the last thing a guy ever wants to be called by a woman. Here's the most valuable actions you can take to reduce the risk of coming off as creepy and increase your chances of appearing attractive:

  1. Get your fundamentals in check. I'm going to tell you something that no pick up artist or dating coach ever will because I'm not selling you a product. Looks matter, A LOT. And the reason is because society gives attractive people a license to express themselves sexually. This doesn't mean that you need an immaculate genetic background. Many of you guys simply need to dress better, adopt better grooming habits, diet, get fit, improve your posture, improve eye contact. Self-care reigns supreme because a woman can tell with a short glance whether or not you're the type of guy that takes good care of himself. But more importantly, do it for YOURSELF. This will be like steroids for your confidence.

  2. Work on yourself internally. It's not enough just to get your external fundamentals in check, you also need to work on yourself internally. You need to develop your confidence and your masculinity so that you can give off that calm self-assured vibe that women crave. While it helps to be able to weave words together eloquently and seductively, women are mostly paying attention to the energy behind the words your saying. She's feeling your vibe. If you don't believe in yourself or the seduction, she won't either. You need to express a level of charm and charisma. She needs to feel your masculine presence.

    Don't underestimate 1 and 2. A woman knows as soon as she meets you whether or not you're the type of guy she would entertain sleeping with. Stop focusing on attraction and seduction tips and focus on actually being an attractive and seductive man.

  3. Understand female dynamic and psychology. You need to have a rudimentary understanding of female dynamic and psychology. You need to show girls that you have enough basic social skills to read her, understand her behavior, and interact with her in a way that feels normal and comfortable. Most of you guys are either way too into your head and disconnected from your body so it feels weird and awkward. Or you're way too into your body and disconnected from your thoughts and emotions so you give off a sleazy vibe. Develop a sense of empathy and learn to read female behavior.

  4. Understand male psychology and male dynamic as well. This is a big one that nobody will ever tell you. This will help you optimize your masculinity and develop yourself into a man you can be proud. Most men these days are effeminate and disconnected from their masculinity. You need to start trusting your instincts and intuition as a man. The more human and natural you are, the more success you will have. Women fall head over heels for men with a strong masculine energy just like we do for women with strong feminine energy. You need that polarity to keep yourself in a masculine frame and keep her in a feminine frame.

  5. Get comfortable with your masculine sexuality. Most of you guys have been brainwashed by decades of millitant nice guy programming that has subconsciously left you feminized and ashamed of your sexuality. A woman cannot feel attraction for you without sexual tension. The lack of sexual tension is actually what creeps most girls out. When you approach, she can sense that you want something from her. So if you act all platonic and try to hide your sexuality and your desires, it creeps her out because your actions aren't matching your intentions. You need to own your sexuality as a man. This is the edge that those Chad-guys have over most guys. Because they have the looks, they feel entitled to express their sexuality. I suggest you avoid sexualized media like porn and stop jerking off. You're draining your masculine sexual essence and it makes you awkward and creepy. You need to develop a human focused sexuality.

  6. Stop pedestalizing women. Your nice guy programming has brainwashed you to believe that women are inherently at a higher value than you because of their beauty. Women shit and fart and sweat and eat nasty-ass food and all other kinds of unattractive shit. Plenty of them have acne and weird body hair and shit that they cover up with makeup and waxing and all sorts of beauty products. Many of them are really uneducated and lack basic critical thinking skills. There's women that do all kinds of creepy, weird, and crazy shit too. Most women just do a better job of hiding these things and presenting themselves in a classy or sophisticated manner.

    Realize that there are some women that will find you creepy no matter what you do, and in those circumstances it usually says more about her than what it says about you. A girl that's highly attracted to you will let you get away with a lot of risque shit. Because she likes you she will see it as bold and confident. If she isn't that attracted to you, one wrong move can turn her right off. Start qualifying women on more than looks and start making her invest in you too.

  7. Reverse psychology. Worrying about being creepy makes you feel creepy. Stop it.

    Dating is like marketing and promotion. Most of you guys are focused on the pitch because subconsciously you know the product sucks. If you have a solid product, the product will sell itself even if the pitch isn't perfect. This is why self-improvement trumps game.

I'll be updating this if I think of anymore advice, so be sure to check back later, especially if you have comments or questions to share.

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MajestyMosquito (▲ 97)

Also book suggestion: No More Mr. Nice Guy. Apply these principles to your actual life and see some changes.

RB210 (▲ 19)

Read mark Manson's Models ASAP

nomadiclives (▲ 14)

This is such solid advice. Absolutely agree with everything. It's taken me 6-7 years of work to go through this entire cycle and of course, it's a never ending process but it feels so so fulfilling when you see where you began and where you are after a few months/years. This is quite simply the best part of it. I must confess I adopted most of these principles because I wanted more success with women, but now I'm just glad that I did all of this for myself. I'm so much more happier and content with my own self that my success or failure with women is completely secondary.

TLDR: Just constantly invest time and energy in becoming the best version of yourself!

GrandMasterB19 (OP) (▲ 11)

I'd rather you do it for women than not do it at all. Most guys won't even do it for themselves, so if you can do it for women, it's worth it. If you can do it for yourself? Even better. Your journey is testament to this.

RB210 (▲ 18)

There is a big difference between being externally validated and not caring about anyone else. It's fine to care about others. You just don't want to count on external sources for all of your validation. Both anxious people and narcissists are fucked.

Zane-Zipperflip (▲ 7)

This is great advice. I would also like to add a quote for all of you that are too afraid to act.

President Theodore Roosevelt: "It is not the critic who counts, not the man that points out how the strong man stumbles, or how the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit goes to the man that is actually in the arena. The one who is marred by dust, and sweat, and blood. Who strives valiantly. Who errs. Who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. But who actually strives to do the deeds. Who knows great enthusiasm, the great devotions. Who spends himself on a worthy cause. Who at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement. And who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly so that his place will never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

Words to live by.

Chichachachi (▲ 5)

Really great writing, I love how you really solidified the idea that attractive people are allowed by society to express themselves sexually. Great insight. It's why actors behave a certain way and get away with it and then are stunned to be metoo'd when their age hits and their looks fade.

GrandMasterB19 (OP) (▲ 6)

It's a huge problem that nobody ever discusses. And not all pretty people misuse that advantage to take advantage of others. Most of them just feel a sense of freedom others don't because they've been validated their whole life.

You have to build yourself into a man that YOU believe is attractive so that you can give yourself the validation that others got that you didn't. Plus, when you feel attractive about yourself, other people will feel you are attractive as well, and you will attract them with that sense of self-assurance. Think of it as self-administered abundance.

[deleted] (▲ -2)

"Many of them are really uneducated and lack basic critical thinking skills." — No they are not.

"Many of you guys simply need to dress better, adopt better grooming habits, diet, get fit, improve your posture, improve eye contact." — I have literally never cared if a guy I've been with is fit or not nor have I ever cared about eye contact, that's a little too ableist for me.

"She needs to feel your masculine presence." — I absolutely do not. Please stop telling every man they NEED to be masculine. All this you need to be masculine and the woman needs to feel your sexual masculinity stuff is weird and creepy.

"Stop focusing on attraction and seduction tips and focus on actually being an attractive and seductive man." — Dont try to look for help...just do it??? Like what??? Why dont you actually just ask women what they want????

"Develop a sense of empathy and learn to read female behavior." — We are not animals to study nor are we books....

"A woman cannot feel attraction for you without sexual tension..." — Absolutely not, just a big no. I can definitely be attracted to someone without sexual tension, like what are you even talking about????

This whole post is very bizarre to me. I am definitely not attracted by any of this.

GrandMasterB19 (OP) (▲ 0)

So you prefer men that are out of shape, effeminate, can't hold eye contact, and don't create sexual tension? Interesting. Your preferences aren't common.

[deleted] (▲ 1)

I'm saying that those are not things that make me not attracted to men. I dont care if a man is out of shape. I'm not bothered by effeminate men and I think its weird when people get bothered by something like that. Not being able to hold eye contact no matter your gender usually means there is something else going on, in my personal experience it happens to be people on the spectrum. Why do you need sexual tension??? I dont understand that either. As a woman, these are just not important things to me so it's weird seeing this as a guide to seducing a woman.

nomadiclives (▲ 1)

I think this has been one of the better posts on this sub in ages. I think "advice" in itself is typically an oversimplification and generalization. So you really don't have to bust a gut about how you or someone you know is an exception and doesn't relate to any of this. There will always be anecdotal evidence that suggest any generic advice is bad/not good but I think lots of men (and women) on this thread have related to this advice, and offered positive feedback.

I think the crux of this post has been on improving yourself for your own sake and if that's not motivation enough, then do it because it will likely help your prospects with dating the kind of women you desire.

I agree there were one or two problematic ideas in here - particularly about masculinity and femininity being binary concepts, because they are not. But I think this is also an advanced topic for lots of people, particularly those that already struggle with core confidence. But generally, I found that a lot of the advice here was such a breath of fresh air against the contrast of the cringeworthy PUA "community".